“Are your child’s bad results your fault?
Your child is smart, – he is capable of multitasking and yet your child’s report card did not meet your expectations.
When expectations are not met it’s human nature to be disappointed. Eventually you end up blowing off steam by shouting at your child , comparing them to other kids, withholding their privileges; in short you start demanding more of your child.
But is that the right thing to do? Is that the right approach?
The Answer : NO, because when you start demanding – eye–rolling, curses and insults, backtalk, ignored requests, snide comments: disrespect from your child will eventually come in many different forms.The truth is, disrespectful behavior is one of the inappropriate ways kids, especially teenagers, try to solve their problems. Kids can feel powerless in the face of rules and expectations, and talking back and showing disrespect is one way they try to take some power back.
There is a better & a softer approach to blow off steam with a more strategic approach which may yield better results. First you need to understand your child. Don’t question them, but talk to them – Learn to listen to them. You should develop a healthy relationship with your child from an early age so that they find it easy to open to you, talk to you, confide in you. Don’t demand but set realistic expectations.
Be Proactive In Your Child’s Life
Talk to their teachers – your child is spending 60% of their time in school, after you it’s the teachers who know your child better. A good teacher will help parents understand the reason your child might not be doing well with their grades.You, as a parent should always keep in mind that average academic performance does not mean your child is average or that he will be limited in life.
Your child may be average at science but doing good in arts & commerce subjects. Don’t overlook that. Always encourage your child towards things they are capable of, praise them when they do well, appreciate their talents & offer to help but do not push them. When you start pushing your kids they may develop anxiety, neglect their friends & family The most important thing here is that your child is learning. If he is progressing, that’s good. If he is falling behind, assure him you’ll help him get back on track.